Monday, June 27, 2011

Everything PARENT did is for their children own good !?!?

     Hey everyone out there, its seriously been awhile. I myself also can’t believe that this blog has been freezing almost half a year now. The previous post was like 20th January 2011?? Omg, its really a freaking long time. I’m here today coz of my inner rage within myself that makes me wanna share a little sumthing with u all out there. Well, a personal thoughts of mine and I am not asking for opinions here. So, I apologize for the involved party, if u think what I mention later offended anyone, I apologize in advance. But seriously, i don’t care. Lol.
     So, a lot of things happened in the past half year. I went for interviews and failed them, I got my new job, I am starting my new class, and I am living in a different environment. So, none of these things I wanna talk about, if u guys really wanna know, well.. just msg me.. I wil reply u all in no time.
     Okay, enuf for the introduction and greetings, and now.. the real thing is here. So, base on the title above, today topic is about parenthood. Well.. undeniable, parents are the creatures that loves their children the most. Despite what the children have done to them, still they are the most forgiving human being on earth that one can find. And parents will do anything just to see their children happy, or keep them away from danger. And I seriously respect all parents out there. No matter u hv been parent for a long time, or just recently being a parent, or even going to be a parent. u guys gain my respect. Sincerely.
     Well, sometimes, parent did’t realize that what they did will indirectly or perhaps directly hurting their children. They might think that what they have done, is for the children own good, but come on, is that really so? Parent has all the rights to do whatever they want to their children in almost everything. But there is only one thing and one thing only that parents aint gonna interfere it’s the children happiness. When they are young, YES!! They need u to tell them what happiness is. U feed them, u shower them with love and u make them happy. That is happiness.. and as ur child grow older u aint got the say anymore of what is happiness. Children will have their own definition of happiness and they knew exactly where to find it. And as a parent if u don’t know how to accept that fact, well sorry folks.. ur eventually just pulling the distance between u and ur children further. We as children, we will always love u all as parent, but we aint looking for happiness through u. we seek for something different and bigger, and more important and precious. We seek for BLESSINGS!!! Blessings is the one we really need after we grew up. U all has done a good job by giving us happiness that we need during our childhood and we love u for that.
     Unfortunately, sumtimes,  parent just didn’t know when to stop. They will keep on doing whatever they think whats best for their children. And we cant blame them. Coz this is the way how parents roll. They don’t care even if their children unwillingly doing things that they are being asked. Parents rather been hated by their children just to make sure the poor child listen to them. There are parent that willingly die for their children. All it is because of wanting their children to go the way they wanted.
But dear parent, u guys need to understand.. your children aint the infant anymore that need the mother to breast feed, that need the daddy to carry around all the time. Not anymore! The children has grown up and has the thinking of their own. Just accept the fact and suck it up!! We all as children will still respect and love u. and coz of that, it aint giving u all rights to break or take away the happiness of the children. HAPPINESS is in our own bare hands, no matter what happen in future, we wont regret as it is our own decisions. We wont blame u guys for not stopping us. (of course when we’re doing drugs, u should do sumthing to stop us.) because, what we really need is ur supports and blessings.  
     And of course, there are a few major examples that can be related to the above discussion. For example,
1.  ‘job’. Parents should not expect their kids to do/to be someone u wants them to. Give them freedom. Give them support; let them do whateva they want that will make them happy. By doing things they enjoyed, they will certainly make a living out of it. what for to have a big earnings but deep inside the kids are having depression and unhappy in work place?
2.   ‘relationship’. This is the worst case that a parent can do to their children. In those days, especially the asian family, parents we’re fucked up to arrange a match-making for their children. Although this practice has been slowly vanishing but still there are a few still happening. Dear parents, as I said earlier, happiness is in the hand of the children themselves. Especially in love life, it is seriously forbidden for parent to interfere in it. So what if the daughter want to marry a drug addict??? So what if the son want to marry a prostitute??? Its all about the chemistry they have with their loves one. (the example was too exaggerate, but it is straight to the point). It gives no rights for anyone even parent to interfere and break the relation off. Parent always give children a hard time by wanting them to decide whether to select between parent and the love one. And this is actually torturing the poor child and it gave no mercy, eventually the child would have to choose his/her parent over their lover. Because we asian, we are the most loyal children ever. And this will be the end of it.
so, I guess that enuf from me. For now. Lol.. anyway, once again I apologize for the blog and I am sure this matter is very subjective. It might be right, it can be wrong. But I just want to stress a thing that is, we as children will always love our parent. We as children, we rather our heart is aching, and bleeding all the time in order to show our love to u all. Coz we do love u, without u all parent, they wont be us.


PS .  I am very lucky and I am indeed grateful that my parent are the most understanding people in the world, at least in my life. They might be disagree on stuff I did sometimes, but in the end they showed me the best supports and blessings to me. I will remember that my mummy once said to me. “whateva u do, we will support u as long you think it’s a right thing to do”. thanks daddy mummy.